IG Live Recap w/ Alex Aust
Overall Takeaway: Confidence is a mindset and something you create with Self-Trust, Self-reliance, and Combatting your Limiting Beliefs.
How do you combat negative self-talk?
By changing the narrative. When you notice you’re being critical of your body, how can you shift that narrative to gratitude for your body? “Thank you for all that my body can do. Thank you for all that it has carried me through. Thank you that my body is there for me even when I treat it like shit.” Realizing that your body has been so loyal to you this entire time, and sometimes we shame it for no reason.
What is the Importance of Community?
Community over collaboration!! Is there much else to say. Not only is there so much room at the top, but damn, is it even worth it if you have no one to talk to while you’re up there? Bring other people up with you.
If you feel jealous of someone, ask someone, are you mad at them, or do you want something that they have? It’s about awareness and being honest with yourself. If you want something they have, you can ALSO have it, too, if you work on your limiting beliefs.
When you’re building self-worth, how do you communicate your new boundaries to old friends?
It’s always about choosing yourself through everything. Honor your boundaries, and the people that are meant to stay will stay. The people that are meant to drift away will. But don’t force yourself to try to hold on to something that you know isn’t right for you. I love the question “Am I abandoning myself by doing XYZ” Never abandon yourself.. like ever!
Did you ever experience mean girls or “cancel culture” during your big success and if so how did you deal with that
Cancel Culture - When people see you being vulnerable or putting yourself out there or starting something new and essentially stop supporting you or cancel your friendship.
Know that you grow the most during periods of discomfort. People will love you, people will hate you, but it has nothing to do with you. At the end of the day, you have to love and know yourself enough to do what’s best for you, and if people “cancel your friendship” then they aren’t a real friend to being with.
As Marcus would say (Alex’s Boyfriend) “Be your own best friend.”
How do you stay confident but also self-aware
Awareness is always key when it comes to confidence. Find humility in your confidence. Real confidence isn’t this boastful energy, more of a quiet “I Know My Worth” energy. If someone is uncomfortable because you’re successful, though, that’s their problem, not yours. Don’t dim your light to make others comfy. No no.
How to build self-trust so much that you can do uncomfortable things?
The gym and daily habits are an amazing place to build self-trust. People who trust themselves to make shit happen for them can do uncomfortable things.
My motto is underpromise and over-deliver. You have to show your mind that you show up for yourself daily. So if you want to build self-trust, tell yourself you’re going to work out for 10 min 4 days a week. Odds are your workout/walk/activity will last more than 10 min, and you might even get in 1 more day. The reinforcement builds self-trust. You can also build self-trust by doing things that scare you. Do a few things every week that make you uncomfortable or that scare you. It could be even talking to a stranger or doing something uncomfortable at the gym. It will reinforce your self-trust and confidence in your subconscious mind. When the “scary thing” becomes bigger, you’ll trust yourself that you can do it.
Podcast / Book Recs
AA: Ed Mylett podcast, Untamed, Where The Crawdad Sings (fiction)
KS: Almost 30 podcast, Expanded podcast, Mark Groves Podcast (relationship stuff),
Books: The Middle Finger Project, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, The 7 Laws of Spiritual Success
In the climate of the world, how do you show up to talk about your POV
You do the best you can. Don’t be quick to judge others. Remember, everyone is doing the best you can. Talk to your peers. Be genuine in your search for knowledge. Read. Learn. Try.